1. Values and Beliefs
Do we share the same core values (faith, honesty, family, money, integrity)?
Do we agree on what is right/wrong in major areas of life?
Can I respect and live with their beliefs, even if they differ slightly from mine?
2. Emotional Maturity
Do they take responsibility when wrong, or do they always shift blame?
How do they handle stress, anger, or disappointment?
Are they willing to compromise and work through challenges without walking away?
3. Respect and Kindness
Do they respect my opinions, dreams, and boundaries?
Do they treat me kindly in private and in public?
How do they treat people “beneath” them (drivers, waiters, workers, etc.)?
4. Trustworthiness
Do I feel safe leaving my phone, secrets, or money with them?
Do they keep promises, even in small things?
Do they lie, hide things, or act suspiciously?
5. Communication
Can we talk openly about difficult issues without fear or hostility?
Do they listen when I speak, or always try to “win” arguments?
Do they shut down, shout, or manipulate instead of resolving conflict?
6. Life Goals and Vision
Do we agree about children (number, parenting style, values to raise them with)?
Do we have similar financial goals (saving, spending, investments)?
Do our career ambitions align, or will they cause conflict later?
Do we want the same lifestyle (city vs. village, travel, social life)?
7. Attraction and Compatibility
Am I genuinely attracted to them (not just physically, but emotionally and mentally)?
Do I feel at peace and happy in their presence?
Do we enjoy spending time together, or do I feel drained?
8. Support and Encouragement
Do they support my dreams and growth, or do they belittle them?
Can I count on them in times of sickness, loss, or failure?
Do they celebrate my successes with me, or compete/compare?
9. Family and Social Relationships
How do they treat their parents, siblings, and friends?
Are they respectful to elders and kind to children?
Are they overly dependent on family/friends in decision-making?
10. Financial Responsibility
Do they budget, save, and spend wisely?
Are they open about money matters, or secretive?
Do they carry unnecessary debts or gambling habits?
Can we plan and manage money together without constant fights?
✅ Final Reflection Questions
Do I feel safe, respected, and valued with this person?
Does this person bring out the best in me, or the worst?
If this person never changes, can I live happily with them for life?
👉 The truth: Love is important, but not enough by itself. A life partner should be someone you can trust, respect, and grow with, even through difficulties.
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