WHO IS A NARCISSIST? BY DR. I. D. SAMUEL

A narcissistic personality refers to a pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving where a person has an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and little regard for others’ feelings.

In psychology, extreme cases are diagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). But many people show narcissistic traits without having the full disorder.

⚠️ Common Traits of a Narcissistic Personality

1. Grandiosity – Exaggerates achievements, expects to be recognized as superior without real accomplishments.

2. Need for Admiration – Constantly seeks praise, validation, or attention.

3. Lack of Empathy – Struggles to understand or care about others’ feelings.

4. Sense of Entitlement – Believes they deserve special treatment.

5. Exploitativeness – Uses others to achieve personal goals.

6. Arrogance – Looks down on others, often belittling or mocking them.

7. Fragile Self-Esteem – Appears confident, but is very sensitive to criticism or rejection.

👫 In Relationships

They may love-bomb (shower affection at first) but later devalue and criticize their partner.

They often manipulate using guilt, gaslighting, or silent treatment.

Relationships feel one-sided — the partner gives, while the narcissist takes.

They may become controlling or jealous when not the center of attention.

🌱 Root Causes

Psychologists suggest narcissism can develop from:

Childhood neglect or excessive criticism.

Over-pampering or being told they’re superior.

Insecurity masked by arrogance.

🛑 Effects on Partners

Being with a narcissistic partner can lead to:

Loss of self-esteem.

Constant self-doubt (due to gaslighting).

Imotional exhaustion from walking on eggshells.

Feeling unloved or unappreciated.

✅ How to Handle a Narcissistic Personality

1. Set Boundaries – Be firm about what you will not accept.

2. Avoid Power Struggles – They thrive on control and arguments.

3. Protect Your Self-Esteem – Don’t let their criticism define your worth.

4. Seek Support – Talk to trusted friends, mentors, or a counselor.

5. Know When to Walk Away – Some narcissists don’t change; leaving may be healthiest.

👉 In short:

A narcissistic personality is charming at first but can become toxic and draining over time. Recognizing the signs helps protect yourself and make wise relationship choices.